How do I improve family ties?Ability India
How do I improve family ties?
To improve family ties, don’t try to improve it. Don’t try to get over the misunderstanding. If there is a misunderstanding, just overlook that.
Educate and ignore. Move forward. Don’t do postmortem, i.e., sit and dig, ‘Why did you say that?’, ‘You don’t love me’, all this garbage is such a waste of time. We dwell into so much emotional garbage. We should throw them all out and have bubbling enthusiasm. You should move with enthusiasm.
If someone lacks enthusiasm, push them into enthusiasm, and do not go on complaining or asking for explanation from people.
To improve family relations you need two things – No Explanations and No Complaints. That’s it. Got it?
Asking explanations from others is a foolish thing. And explaining to others thinking they would understand is another foolish thing. It doesn’t work both ways.
The best is to just move forward.
Buddha was once visiting a village. A man asked him, “Everyday you say that everyone can become enlightened . Then why doesn’t everyone become enlightened* .
“My friend, “ Buddha replied, “do one thing: in the evening make a list of all the people in the village and write down their desires next to their names.”
The man went into the village and he asked everyone; it was a small village with only a few people, and they give him their answers. He returned in the evening and give the list to Buddha. Buddha asked, How many of these people seek enlightenment?”
The man was surprised because not a single person had written that he wanted enlightenment. And Buddha said. “I say that every man is capable of enlightenment, I do not say that man wants enlightenment.
That every man is capable of enlightenment is very different from every man wanting to be enlightened. If you want it, then consider it to be possible. If your quest is for truth, there is no power on earth that can stop you. But if you don’t long for truth, then too there is no power which can give it to you.